Basically, Dr. N (immunology) told us there is no worldy reason that our son should still be living, let alone be in any sort of "stable" condition. The first time Dr. N laid eyes on our precious baby a month ago, he prescribed some prophylactic (preventative) medications to help his body fight off different types of infections. At that time, he didn't think any of these measures would really give Malachi a fighting chance. We can safely say that Malachi is only surviving because God has chosen to sustain him.
Not only is he surviving, but right now he is:
**not in constant pain (he definitely hurts at times and he is uncomfortable and I haven't seen him smile in at least three weeks, but you can tell that at times he is at peace);
**he is mostly breathing over the ventilator (the machine is not taking many of his his breaths for him.
**beginning to really track items (toys, etc.) with his good eye, even with limited vision.
**mastering bringing hands to mouth, actually sucking his thumb, and purposefully bringing his hands together and those types of developmental things. (most other 6-month developmental things are contingent upon hearing, which Malachi doesn't have... also, he's obviously behind with mastering head control, rolling, pushing himself up, sitting, etc. since he's been in a hospital bed for so long)
All that to say, Malachi has come a long way and has already exceeded the expectations of many. However, he is still very much in critical condition. On his 6-month birthday, we were informed that Malachi cannot create his own T-cells. This is obviously crucial to his survival. The most probable outcome is that Malachi will die of an infection before his first birthday--news that absolutely no parent is ready to hear. We have obviously gone through a roller coaster of emotions lately and have mostly been out of sorts, not really knowing how to comprehend and digest all of this.
Also, we need your prayers and support more than ever. Medically, there is no reason that Malachi hasn't already been attacked by a fatal infection. God has a purpose for our baby and we are completely overwhelmed with the responsibility that comes with being a steward of His child. If you would like a bracelet to help you to remember to pray for our baby, we would LOVE to send one (or two, or five, or twenty, etc. etc.) your way. Just email me at marissasharbaugh@gmail.com. It amazes us that people all over the world are sharing in this crazy journey with us. Your love and support are overwhelming--in the best sense of the word!
This news brings tears to my eyes. I'm so sorry your having to watch your little one go through all of this. What a fighter he is and what a miracle he is. When will they talk about sending him to Duke for the transplant? How can the blogging community help (besides overload of prayers?) Please let us help you? Prayers for all of you and the doctors guiding his care...and praise for God who is continuing to show us his awesome work.
ReplyDeleteMarissa and John...you are in our loving thoughts daily. I truly do not know how you do it. We've got a couple of miracle babies on our hands...I can't wait to tell Graham one day about his little friend from the NICU. One big giant e-hug from the Law's.
ReplyDeleteLove, Katie
we are here praying for you guys and holding you close. God IS the ultimate physician and the ultimate healer.
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the Nelsons
My family can relate to what yours is going through, in a small way, after spending a month in the NICU with our daughter who is just a few days younger than your sweet malachi.
ReplyDeleteThere were times when the doctors were at a loss, and we didnt know what the future held for Jayne. However, having Jesus Christ as your rock, and knowing that he is the great physician, is exactly what you have and need during this difficult trial.
Times like these are what bring you closer to God. Psalm 139 was a passage that I held close during Jaynes hospital experience.
Know that our family will be keeping yours in our thoughts and prayers often.
Continue to seek your strength from God, his plan is perfect, and you are bringing him glory by trusting in him.
You have no idea how many lives you have touched by sharing your journey with others. Thankyou for your strong testimony, its refreshing to see you leaning on God even in the hard times.
Katie Dobbertin -church friend of Jenny Millers